About.

Inna Hudaya was born pushing herself in everything she does in life – always looking for the next challenge and life-changing experience. A feminist, social-entrepreneur, human rights advocate, and traveler. Inna is an avid traveler and adventurer; a quirkyalone, love walking around anonymously and wondering herself as James Bond during her travels. However, she marks activism as her most epic adventure yet.

Though Inna is known as a strong and independent woman. Not many would believe that for most of her life, she is actually dealing with fragile self-esteem. Since she was a child, she struggles with invalidation and conditional love.

PERSONAL IS POLITICAL

Inna suffers from chronic depression for most of her life, with two major depressive episodes in 2004 after her abortion, and in 2020 after a narcissistic abusive relationship.

Since she was a child, she realized that she didn’t fit in the family. To be accepted and loved means she needs to be the person her family and society expected to be. She knew that’s not the life she wanted.

Inna Hudaya walked out of her hometown with one thought in her mind: How can I never go back? How can I make a difference? In 2000, a few days after her final exam, she jumped on a bus for Yogyakarta.

Inna’s work began in 2007 when she was 26, four years after her abortion. In a traditional and religious setting, sharing and being open is not her option. She knew that instead of getting the support she needed, she will face stigma and discrimination from her family and environment. So she decided to have an abortion. She had post-psychosomatic trauma after the abortion, which forced her to give up her study and focus on recovering by seeing psychiatry and having the treatment that made her broke and had a debt.

Sometime in 2007, she read an article that there are 2 million abortions a year in Indonesia. She was wondering what if 50% of them had a trauma just like she had before, the feeling to give up and die. Those women did not have a place to share the feeling. She started to write her story on her blog. She talked about her process of recovery and disseminate information on safe abortion. She got lots of reactions from women who experience the same thing. Fueled only by social media, propelled the creation of Samsara, a feminist organization focus on women’s bodily autonomy and integrity.

Several times involved in a toxic relationship since she was young, and often respond in a toxic behavior as well, it doesn’t make Inna realize that this is a pattern that was formed from her childhood. It was only in 2019 after following regular therapy that Inna realized that she was a product of a narcissistic mother. In early 2020, amid the COVID-19 pandemic, Inna experienced severe depression after discarded by her partner, Inna needed intensive help from a psychiatric hospital, following clinical therapy and coaching sessions to overcome depression and suicidal thoughts. Only to find out later that the depression she had been experiencing had turned out to be part of the narcissistic abuse she experienced from her ex-partner.

Similar to what she did after her depressive episode following her abortion. In August 2020, she started Bye Narc Academy as a platform to increase awareness of narcissistic abuse, including to offer support and coaching for people dealing with narcissistic abuse.

Experience

EXPERIENCE.

Founder and Coach | Bye Narc Academy | 2020

Bye Narc Academy is a life coaching and educational platform to increase awareness of narcissistic abuse and offers support for people dealing with narcissistic abuse. As a survivor and with her experience as a counselor and women’s rights advocate, Inna offers a holistic perspective on narcissism with the view of narcissism as a systemic problem rooted in a patriarchal culture.

Founder and Executive Director | Samsara | 2008 – 2019

Samsara is a feminist organization based in Indonesia that promotes body autonomy, sexual and reproductive health, and rights. With 12 years of experience working in the sexual and reproductive health field, she works directly with young people and women at the grassroots level. This has given her firsthand experience with the existing system, enabling her to gradually challenge the status quo by giving back power to women.

FELLOWSHIP

Human Rights Advocates Program

Columbia University, New York City, 2017

Ashoka Fellow, November 2013-Present

Innovator for Public Health Categories, Indonesia, November 2013

EDUCATION

Indonesia Islamic University 2001- 2004 | Medical studies

Indonesia Islamic University 2000- 2001 | Law

CERTIFIED TRAINING AND COURSES

Overview of Narcissistic Personality Styles for Therapists & Coaches | Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Nov 2020

Clinically addressing narcissistic abuse: Bearing witness & paradigm shifts | Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Oct 2020

Value Clarification and Attitude Transformation (VCAT) Training for Trainers (TOT) | Ipas | 2018

Gender Concepts to get Started; International Frameworks for Gender Equality; and Promoting Gender Equality throughout the UN System  | UN Women  | 2017

DSST Organizational Behavior  | 2016

Human Resource Business Professional  | 2016

Counseling for Post Traumatic Disorder Syndrome | Yogyakarta, 11-12 June 2012 | Yogyakarta State University

Training of Trainer on Sexuality Counselling Skills | New Delhi, 7-10 December 2011 TARSHI

Accessibility and Disabilities | Yogyakarta, November 2011 | Handicap International

The 5th Regional Institute on Sexuality, Society, and Culture | New Delhi, May 2009 | TARSHI

Human Rights | Jakarta, December 2009 | Human Rights National Commission

Sex, Gender & Reproductive Health in Indonesia | Jakarta, December 2009 | PSKK-UGM & HIVOS

Journalistic & Narrative, Reporting | Yogyakarta, July 2008 | PANTAU

RESEARCH WORKS.

Expertise

EXPERTISE.

REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS MATTERS.

We can not achieve equality without women’s bodily autonomy and integrity
01. MEDICAL ABORTION.

Pre and post abortion counseling through online platform. Set up database on medical abortion outside clinical setting, and conduct research on self-managed abortion.

02. SEXUAL & REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH.

Trainer and facilitators for SRHR. Including to set up SRHR school, Satellite Workshop to rural areas and Midwives Training in East Indonesia.

03. HUMAN RIGHTS.

Advocating for reproductive rights at the national and international level.

04. NGO’s.

As former Director of Samsara, she is responsible for program development, monitoring and evaluation.

Skill

Skills.

CARING & COMPASSION DRIVEN.

COUNSELING 85%
RESEARCH 90%
PROGRAM MONITORING AND EVALUATION 78%
CAPACITY BUILDING 93%
SOCIAL MEDIA 85%
PUBLIC SPEAKING 94%
GRANT WRITING 94%
COMMUNITY OUTREACH 94%
Media

Media

LEARN MORE ABOUT HER WORKS

“Should Women Perform Their Own Abortions?”

COSMOPOLITAN

“Illegal, but they’re everywhere’: How women help other women get abortions”

RAPPLER

“Indonesia: Islam’s Abortion Debate”

PULLITZER CENTER

“Ignorance that kills”

INSIDE INDONESIA

GET IN TOUCH

Contact.

LET’S TALK.

Email her at byenarc@gmail.com